Welcome to Women’s History Month! I am taking inspiration from Sara Bareille’s newsletter and am using this month as a platform to celebrate the women in my life that inspire me, that motivate me, that love me and that show me strength.
I remember the moment I saw her; we were 10 minutes into the first day of our Sociology 101 class and she pushed through the doors of the classroom with a clumsiness that forced the attention unto her. The class completely stopped while she searched for the one empty seat in the class, that seat happened to be in front of me. The professor had just regained the class’s attention when she turned around and asked me for a piece of paper, another minute passed and she turned around and asked me for a pen, two more minutes and she asked if she could read from my book since she had forgotten hers.
She was immediately a lot and we were soon absolutely inseparable.
Candice felt like a push out of my comfort zone. She was a ball of energy that I could hardly keep up with; but my focus remained on staying on for the ride. I was an introverted, broken mess and she reminded me how good it felt to live in the moment. I was quiet and lost when I met her yet she forced me into the spotlight with her public dancing and a laugh that could fill any room she was in.
The first time Candice and I traveled together, it almost ended our friendship. I was convinced that our differences would be the end of us and I was extremely close to being right.
The thing is, Candice taught me how to create meaningful friendships. These last ten years have been hard work. Sure, we have laughed, we have danced, we have had some of the best adventures but we also had to learn to compromise, we had to accept our quirks, we had to work through the passive aggressiveness and it was all completely worth it.
Candice works in Corporate America and it has been inspiring to see her reach her current position. I have witnessed the hard work, the stress and the second-guessing that has landed Candice on the first step to her dream career. It hasn’t always been easy and often it’s been too difficult to fathom but Candice has handled every step of the way with grace. I mean grace with a couple of meltdowns in the middle of it all, but no one can keep it together ALL the time.
Surviving in a leadership position where she is surrounded by mostly older white men, is just one of her superpowers.
I consider myself lucky.
Okay, that’s not true, I often consider myself extremely unlucky but Candice makes me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. She makes the bad days feel a little lighter, she makes the problems feel a little smaller, she makes the happiness a little better and she makes the adventures a little more fun. I could not have found a better best friend and though she refuses to pay attention to television shows and she continuously asks me to pause them so I can catch her up; moving in together was the best decision I have made so far.